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August Goals – Made It!

August Goals – Made It!

Well, August started strong and then kinda crept out the door when I wasn't looking. So, I guess that means...
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A Leave of Absence: Making Hard Choices Harder

A Leave of Absence: Making Hard Choices Harder

So, I'm apparently on a leave of absence from work.  I say apparently because it wasn't really planned ahead of...
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I Hate You – Don’t Leave Me – A Mental Health Book Review

I Hate You – Don’t Leave Me – A Mental Health Book Review

When Morgan was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, I was completely terrified.  It seems horrible to say now, but that's...
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July Goals – Good and Gone

July Goals – Good and Gone

Whoa, looks like July is done and gone! Which means, it's time to review how we did on our goals....
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Borderline Personality Disorder: A Journey to Diagnosis

Borderline Personality Disorder: A Journey to Diagnosis

When did I know...? So here's the thing. I always felt as though something was "wrong". I always felt like...
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How to Talk to Your Kids About Mental Illness

How to Talk to Your Kids About Mental Illness

Talking to your kids about health issues is never easy.  We struggle with what to say, how to say it,...
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Help! My Brain is Trying to Kill Me!

Help! My Brain is Trying to Kill Me!

I'll admit, I've been sitting at my computer for hours trying to figure out how to start this post.  I...
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Borderline Personality Disorder. Wait, what?

Borderline Personality Disorder. Wait, what?

First off, I've gotta ask: is there an extreme mode? Because it sure seems like someone changed the settings on...
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May Goals…Maybe Not?

May Goals…Maybe Not?

I completely failed at meeting my goal and what's worse is I beat myself up about it for over a month. Why? I couldn't say. But I can say, I got through. Here's what happened...
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April Showers Bring May Goals?

Today, we are going to talk about goals and mental health. Goals are important, not just in mundane life, but especially in life with chronic illness. Goals keep us going when things get hard. They give us something to strive and hope for. So, lets get together and figure it out!
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Life with mental illness is hard.  There’s no way around that fact.  For some it’s a constant niggling knowledge that at any moment, everything could go wrong.  For others, it’s a beast the sits on your chest and prevents you from moving or even breathing. You wake up in the morning and it seems to take all of your energy just to roll out of bed and on to the floor.  Not gonna lie, the number of days my depression has left me to shout for help because my blanket was wrinkled is more than I should probably admit.  But still, when your brain is working against you, what can you do but stay afloat?  Mental illness is brutal.

Parenting is hard, too.  There’s no way around that either.  You have all the perfect parents, the desperate parents, the freestyle parents, and so on, all vying to be the best. You’re sitting here in the middle, just trying to stay awake while they tell you how to fix your latest parenting crisis.  Baby won’t sleep?  That’s okay!  There’s a cure!  Kids fighting? We’ve got a few different fixes for that.  Mommy can’t stay awake? Try one of our thousand delightful recipes, guaranteed to wake you up and provide valuable bonding time with your littles. Okay, so, I’m exaggerating a little….but the thought is there.  Parenting is crazy hard work.

When you add those two things together…. well, that gives you a whole new world of hard.  You can become the parent who thanks god her eldest is old enough to cook for the youngest because you can’t even find pants and now you’re sobbing on the floor.  You can be the parent who looks at their newborn babe and instead of a swelling of the heart feels a crushing despair.  You can become the parent who overthinks every single action from your girl because you know that she’s right around the right age to start presenting symptoms, and god…there’s a 10% chance she will.  You become more than just an illness, and more than just a role.

Parenting is hard.  Mental illness is hard.

Parenting with mental illness?  I’m pretty sure we’re superheroes.

Come be a superhero with me.

<3 Shahana